Every conflict in your life is YOUR conflict.  Meaning that you own it, that you created it. That conflict is only there because of you and it is for your benefit.  This is summary of a quote I recently heard, which I think is very useful, it goes:

“Every conflicts, difficult situation, or problem in your life are not chance or haphazard.  They are specifically yours designed specifically for you by a part of yourself that loves you more than anything else.  IT has created road blocks to lead you to yourself.  You will not go in the right direction unless there is something pricking you in the side telling you look here, look this way.  That part of you loves you so much that it does not want you to lose the chance.  It will go to extreme measures to wake you up, it will make you suffer greatly if you don’t listen.”

-A.H. Almaas

Whatever experience you are having is the experience that you need to have.  You have to figure out what it means in our life and why it is there.  If everyone looked at their problems in this light, they would solve a lot of them if not all of them.  If you take this to heart then your life and the life of those involved in your problems will be vastly better than before.    

This is true of physical illness, mental illness, and any other type of problems you will encounter.  The root of realizing and understanding this fact is declaring ownership of everything. 

“It is with our minds that we create the world.” – Buddha

The continuation of that quote is that, “the world does create our minds.”  Something to think about.  I believe that quote is generally attributed to the Buddha.  It may not be exactly as he said it.  Still it is worth considering.